a motto that I really like is this: My goal is that those people who are closest to me, and best knows me, also will love me and respect me the most.

It's kind a brilliant to think like that, specially when you're having a leaderposition. Fact 1: You could never please everyone. Everyone can't love you to pieces. Fact 2: If those who best knows me, also loves me the most. That's one of a kind goal. (With that, I don't mean that it's a good thing if people who doesn't know you, hate you instead.)

But if people who are close to me, don't respect me and love me. How could I even "expect" for love and respect from people that doesn't know me? And If they do, they might be disappointed as soon they start to know me better? Of course, one thing doesn't neccesarily exclude the other thing.

I don't want to be a pastor, I don't have that vision. BUT if I would end up in a position or similar position like a leader, that motto would defenitely be in the way I work and behave. So people who are close to me should listen to me, because they respected me and loved me. Who you are, sometimes reflects (not always) in the integrate of others.

Who told us that you got to be disappointed as soon you start to know someone even better? Shouldn't it be given confidence? A little bit of faith? An honour to share life.
I'm trying to be like that, to be like that with my friends.

Because it is an honour, be given peoples trust and to share life with people. You don't need to idolize or underestimate anyone. The respect should be there, for everyone. So.. Thank you all my friends. You're great and you're giving my life such an gilt edge!